It’s about taking a little time to reflect. Don’t be in ‘go go go’ mode where you’re just really busy. Gauge where you’re at. How are you REALLY feeling. Not just on one day. But how are you really feeling cumulatively?
Journalling is a great way to document this. You can flick back over and see ‘oh, I haven’t liked this project for the past three months, so maybe that’s why I’m not very happy’. Then the proof is in the pudding, you are confronted with that cumulative truth.
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It is important to give yourself space to see over-arching trends in how you feel about things. You don’t necessarily realise quite how you feel until you go through that exercise of reflecting.
There are temporary feelings. For example you could absolutely hate music for a day or two but then come back and realise it’s just a rough patch. The important realisations are long term and it sometimes requires you to step back so that you can see them.
We’re All Scared
Fear is the underlying problem and symptom. The more you get in touch with it and not just deny it the better you will overcome it. It’s always the elephant in the room, but how aware are you of it?
We’re all scared, we all feel the same way, it’s just nobody admits it. It’s not glamorous, fun, or something that you want to talk about. But talk to anyone for anything length of time and you realise that we all feel the exact same way, we’re all craving acceptance in some way, shape or form.
In being vulnerable and in talking about your fears and struggles you make connection with other people because everyone DOES resonate. If you’re upfront about it then you are immediately seen as authentic, real, and ‘getting it’. This is the way to build deeper and wider connections with your audience.
I scoff at the idea of experts. I don’t believe that anyone is even close to being an expert. Absolutely, other people have more experience than us and we can learn from these great teachers, but the idea that anyone has all the answers/the assumption they have finished learning or growing, is laughable.
Online we’re in a world of experts, it’s how everyone seems to present themselves. But if we’re going to be real and true to who we are without burning out we need to step away from this and just embrace learning, growing, and find our own answers that seem to work for us through experimenting.
This is taken from an interview I did with Jim Woods about finding your Work-Life-Creative Balance as a Gentle Soul, and Overcoming Fear to Accomplish Your Goals.
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