Right then. It’s that time of year again. A moment to pause as we reflect back on what has (and hasn’t) happened since the start of the year. And to think forwards, with hopes and dreams at what would be nice to see happen next year.
Are you sick of the word “goal” yet? It’s absolutely everywhere, and I know from the conversations I have with readers/listeners, that introverts and HSPs don’t always have a good relationship with it…but still. I’m kind of into goal-setting in quite a big way, and in this episode you’ll find out why.
I have just completed my annual goal setting process. It’s the fourth year running that I’ve gone through the 5 Days to Your Best Year Ever course. It’s become a week each year that I really look forward to. A sanctuary of reflection, gratefulness, and dreaming, which has kicked into action some massive changes in my life since 2014.
You might have been put off setting goals. It’s important for you to see where this has happened, so that you can develop a better relationship with this stuff.
Maybe you recognise one of these?
- Goals are Externally Forced (corporate goals, teacher’s goals, things YOU SHOULD improve)
- You’ve Not Been Allowed to Truly Dream
- Comfort Zone is Something that Others Dictate (you’re told you need to step outside of it, but not for any reason other than to fit in more)
- It’s Associated With Dissatisfaction
- You’ve Had Bad Experiences in the Past
I have been the same at different points throughout my life. But since 2014 my relationship with personal growth and goal setting has completely changed. Rather than setting myself up for inevitable failures that I can use to judge myself by, goal setting has become something to actually enjoy and celebrate. The realisation that “should” has no place in the setting of compelling, exciting personal goals, is one that opens up a world of interesting possibilities.
In this episode you’ll discover some of the reasons introverts and highly sensitive people may be averse to goal setting. I share some of the reasons we are really well placed to make exciting changes, and move our lives in the direction we actually want to.
Goal setting can be highly invigorating when you realise:
- You are in Control
- The Process is Inside Your Comfort Zone (one thing at a time)
- Excitement is a Pre-Requisite
- If It’s Not Compelling, It’s Not Coming In
- Your Value is Not Tethered to Your Goals
If you’ve set goals in the past and failed then this is the episode for you. And if you’re serious about developing your skills, growing into yourself, and making the changes necessary to live your best possible life.
Over to You
How do you feel about the idea of goal setting? What do you think has informed your view of them (whether good or bad)? Please leave your response in the comments below.