Do you know people who don’t seem to see the role they play in creating their own problems? People where it seems so obvious to you why they are not making breakthroughs in the areas of life they seem obsessed about changing?
We all have blind spots. It’s so much easier to see these kinds of truths for other people than it is to see and acknowledge them for ourselves.
It’s why coaches need coaches, doctors need doctors, councillors need councillors, and mentors need mentors. Not even the wisest guru in the world can be self-aware enough for perfection. And that’s no bad thing.
As introverts and highly sensitive people, it’s important to see ourselves from the perspective of others. To empathise with people who experience who and how we are. This is the starting point of self-awareness. It’s how we can position mirrors on our lives so that we can see how our behaviours might contribute to the problems we want to solve. Then, rather than finding other things to blame, we have a clearer view of what is truly needed in order to create a healthier future.
In this episode of the podcast we look at how blind spots can become gaping chasms if we leave them to their own devices. And how we can use the gifts of sensitivity and introversion to see those hard to view parts of ourselves reflected back when we take the time to truly do so.
Shaking a Mindset
A question that I’ve seen come up in a number of forums lately is “how can I get (person) to like me?” Alongside “does anyone else intuitively ‘just know’ when someone doesn’t like you?”
It feels like there are elements of social regression taking place, especially when I read the responses to these kinds of questions in comment sections. “Just ignore those people…they’re not worth your energy…people who don’t appreciate you for you are just selfish narcissists” and so on. You’ve probably seen similar stuff.
These are responses that conform to an ever-growing idea that saturates our (in)ability to transcend our differences and rub along together on this little planet of ours. The idea that a person’s value as a human is based on whether you like them, or whether or not they like you.
Whether you like it or not, you have to spend your short time on this earth rubbing along with people who you don’t like. And, shock horror, people who won’t see eye to eye with you. That’s OK. It has to be. Because it’s true.
There is NOTHING you can do to make someone like you. You’re not entitled to anyone else’s affections or attention. However, you might experience some interesting results once you shift your focus from you to them. Once you change the question from “how can I get them to like me?” to “how can I make them feel good about themselves?”
How can we use our encounters with other people to better view our blind spots? How might we build a positive and healthy self-awareness that helps us grow deeper into who we are? That’s what we are looking at in this week’s episode.
Over to You
Do you seek to become aware of your blind spots? How? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic, please share your response and ideas in the comments below.