Welcome...I'm Andy; a songwriter, podcaster, and professional slow coach. I love supporting introverts and highly sensitive people as they let go of the limiting stories they've been told about themselves. So they can learn to work WITH (and not against) their intrinsic temperament. And live in sync with the natural rhythm and pace inside them, so they can create a life bursting with soul, meaning, and gentle rebellion.

In Order to Get a Better Grip, Sometimes You've Got to Let Go

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This will give you access to my 'Notes From a Slow Coach', where I share reflections about slowing down, living in sync with our natural rhythm, and finding our inner gentle rebel. So we can can experience more joy, meaning and creative purpose in our short (and strange) time together on this planet.

Me in a Little Nutshell

Things that occupy my time, energy, and excitement: making music, podcasting, slow coaching, writing, and finding ways to make myself laugh.

I am an introvert, deeply sensitive person, and a bit of a minimalist stoic type. I started The Haven in 2014, which is a creative community for people who resonate with those values and aspirations to live with more meaning, calmness, and peace.

And after a crazy life changing season, I am currently in a state of limbo...I'm awaiting/planning/working out what happens next in my life. This is a bit exciting, slightly terrifying, and a mostly quite liberating. I live in the middle of the UK.

To see what I'm doing now, visit my Now Page.

To go deeper with me on your own gentle rebel journey, check out The Haven, my Patreon Page, and My One-to-One Coaching. These are currently my main sources of revenue which make the continuation of this work possible.

Me in a Bigger Nutshell

"The About page on your website isn't about you, it's about your readers. They will use it to decide if your website is useful to them. Don't talk about yourself."

This is what I was once told by an online marketing 'guru'. I followed the advice for years, just using this page to speak to the experiences of introverts, highly sensitive types, and aspiringly creative people. It was more of a landing page, to remind people what their problem is and how I can help them overcome it with my podcasts, articles, and coaching services.


But then a reader got in touch and said, "I don't think I'm the only one here who just wants to know more about YOU!" So then I got a bit confused and didn't know what to do.

But I knew they were right.

I mean, when I land on websites like this, I want to know something about the person the other side of the screen. I want to hear their story, and see if I feel a connection to them as a human. Are they real? Or are they just trying to sign me up to some funnel that will end up selling me endless products that promise to make my life complete.

So, if you'll forgive what feels like the self-indulgence, this page is where I will tell you a bit about who I am, what I care about, why I made this website, and generally what makes me tick in life.

You never know, it might help you decide whether this website, and indeed my voice, can be of any assistance and support to you.

Basic Timeline


1985 - I was born in the town of Stockport

1986 - We moved to Swindon

1989 - In a surprising move, my parents bought me a 'first drum kit' from Toys r Us (it wasn't even my birthday or Christmas...I think they were sick of me smashing up pots and pans with wooden spoons - I was OBSESSED with the drums)

1990 - We moved to Leamington Spa and I started school

1993 - Did my first gig, drumming along to 'With a Little Help from My Friends', with Mrs Smith in school assembly

1996 - Had to step in as substitute goalkeeper in a county 5 aside football tournament - I didn't concede a single goal throughout, and we won the cup (I was petrified the whole day)

1997 - started secondary school (threw up all over myself on the back of the bus at the end of my first day)

1998 - did my first proper gig (a Battle of the Bands competition in a local school, for which I ended up both singing and playing the drums, after our original front man quit a week before the show due to creative differences with one of the other members)

2002 - finished school with pretty decent grades, carried on into Sixth Form and did A Levels in Psychology, English Literature, Politics, and Music - did pretty well


2004 - I worked at Blockbuster video for a month, then at a call centre (worst job ever!), while writing and producing The Final Scene (my first solo album)

2005 - I moved to Southampton and went to university to study Politics and International Relations

2008 - graduated with a 2:1. I worked at Borders bookshop, where I bought (and intended to read) a lot of books

2009 - BORDERS UK WENT BUST (not my fault)...I released my second album

2010 - BLOCKBUSTER VIDEO WENT BUST (not my fault)...I released One World Less (a 4 part album) and The Prisoner (a novella)

2011 - I discovered what it meant to be an introvert

2013 - I got married

2014 - I launched The Haven and spoke/performed at TEDx Cyprus...I released Year 0 (my fourth album)

2015 (well technically January 30th 2014) - I started work as an undertaker (I had always been curious about how people end up working in that kind of profession...I soon found out)

2016 - after tearing my trousers at work bending over to do my shoe laces, I decided to get fit rather than ordering the next size up - I lost 3 stone and did a 10km run for the first time in my life (it had been on my 'to do' list for years!)

2017 - I didn't know it yet, but it was retrospectively the worst year of my life...I performed at TEDx Leamington (amazing!)...I released The Arrow of Time EP (wonderful to get back to Woodbine St. Studio)

2018 - also the worst year of my life (was put in the picture about last year and my world turned upside down - marriage down the crapper)

2019 - moved in with my parents and started two professional coaching qualifications with The Coaching Academy UK...Went to Australia for Christmas with some amazing friends

2020 - played first bunch of gigs with my new band, Earlybird. Completed the first diploma, and launched the coaching business...still maintaining my job as an undertaker (during the Covid pandemic)

2021 - 6 years to the day, I quit my job as an undertaker, and started life as a full-time professional Slow Coach...(during a global pandemic and anxious uncertainties around Brexit - good timing, Andy!)


I have always been drawn towards minimalism both aesthetically and as a life philosophy. In 2018 when my life turned upside down, I found myself using it to focus myself on what truly mattered. I spent time identifying the values, relationships, and stuff that add value to my life. And I began the on-going process of 'letting go' of things I've been holding too tightly over the years.

When I wrote the song, Hold On, in 2008, it came from this image I had towards the end of my time at university...'if you want to get a better grip, sometimes you've got to let go'. I've never forgotten that.

My Story (towards greater self-awareness)

I'm a happy person and feel great when I'm working on projects that matter to me. I have also spent time kind of confused about what I'm doing with my life. I sometimes get paralysed by fear of my own ambition and potential success. Oh the frustration!

As a kid I really enjoyed spending time with people. Especially people I knew. I had big dreams, I wanted to be a rock star, a footballer, a painter, a writer, a builder and a shop keeper. And I spent a lot of time in my imagination, creating elaborate worlds in my head. As far as I was concerned, anything was possible. I wanted to do it all. Perhaps everything at once.

I have fond memories of painting and cross-stitching with my grandparents, though one day decided to throw away anything that linked me to cross-stitch, when I experienced a deep crisis of shame.

An Alienating Self-Concept

I was often called 'shy', 'sensitive' and 'quiet'. Every school report provided the same feedback:

'Andy needs to put his hand up more in lessons and contribute confidently to class discussions.'

Something began to happen as I got older...these observations began to sink in. 'Shy', 'sensitive', and 'quiet' were criticisms that cut deep. I developed the feeling there was something wrong with me and it needed fixing. I had to be louder, more outgoing and more ready to throw myself into new situations without thinking.

But it was difficult. I wasn't that person and I couldn't see how I could be. I wasn't the person I needed to be. Other people seemed much better able to navigate the world than me. So I got my head down and processed my experiences in the only way I knew how...on my own, in my head, creatively. I would often withdraw from view by quietly fitting in or spending great amounts of time alone, which I found was the most productive way to spend my time.

Then Something Clicked

In 2010 I stumbled on this article: 10 Myths About Introverts by Carl King

Then I read The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World.

All of a sudden it all made sense. There was a name for my experience of the world, and I wasn't alone.

I started lapping up all the information I could get my hands on. Everything began to make sense.

Then I took this test by Elaine Aron and read her book, The Highly Sensitive Person. That was a big missing piece of my jigsaw...turns out I'm a 'highly sensitive person' (hmm, it didn't sound like something I necessarily wanted to be).

But it was a welcome arm around my shoulder. I was finally able to see how I fitted into the world. It was great to discover that I wasn't alone and that there are millions of us who relate to the world in similar ways.

As I began to discover new things about introversion, high sensitivity, creativity and myself, I shared my findings on my website.

The more I shared the more I heard from people who resonated with what I was writing. I found myself writing more and more about introversion, high sensitivity and the impact my temperament had on my own life and creativity. And that's how this website came to be what it is today.

Labels and Tribes

I'm not interested in boxing people in with pigeonholes, labels, and stereotypes. Though I think we can use things like Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, DISC, and other personality tests, to direct how we understand who we are deep down.

Labels can help when they assist in self-awareness and self-acceptance. But they can become a hindrance when we become attached to them, defined by them, and use them to distance ourselves from others.

I don't have all the answers. I don't have many! I've got a few...at least things that I've learned about myself that have helped me grow. But I don't think we really need answers. We need courage, vulnerability, and humility. We need to see one another, the world, and ourselves with compassion, gentleness, and acceptance.

I would love us to let go of the need to be right, to play the victim, or to prove our worth. To release ourselves from the outrage and blame we point at others, and rather than doing nothing but tearing down and destroying, to ask what can I create? What can I contribute? How can I connect? We don't need solutions, answers, and secrets. We need to let go of our ego, and see this life and our world for the beautiful fleeting opportunities they are. It's our chance to experience something remarkable.


The Gentle Rebel Podcast comes out at the end of each month. I talk about a particular theme, and perform a few of my songs.

The Extended Play Private Podcast is available exclusively through Patreon. It is a more candid, off-the-cuff exploration of stuff happening in the world and in my life. I expand on episode themes, and the subjects in my newsletter. And I share more about my own experiences of introversion, sensitivity, creativity, music, minimalism, and personal growth.

I often connect themes with stuff I've written about in songs over the years, and I talk about some of the meaning behind certain aspects of my work.

Start Here: Articles and Podcasts

10 Myths About Being You (an introvert or highly sensitive person)


Blessed are the Weird

Do You Have Enough Courage to Be Disliked?

Are You an Accessible Introvert or a Shadow Dwelling Introvert?

7 Beautiful Things You Are Probably Keeping Hidden From People

Stop Fitting In (What is a Gentle Rebel?)

Phone-Reluctant Introverts, There is Nothing Wrong With You

Why the Apparent Advantages of The Open-Plan Office are Devastating for Introverts

How to Stop Being Introverted (The Definitive Guide)

Are You a Highly Sensitive Person? (You Might Be Surprised)

8 Reasons Introverts Might Find it Difficult Asking For Help

Gentleness is Strength: The 7 Habits of Highly Gentle People

Other Projects

Inside No 9 Podcast (a podcast about the BBC TV series that I produce with my good friend, Steve)

Earlybird (my latest band)