The Creative Cure is not another promise of a road towards wholeness and completeness.
At its heart, Jacob Nordby’s new book is a simple invitation back to ourselves. Away from the never-ending treadmill pursuit of The Cure.
The Emerging Self
As we grow up we develop a story that tells us what it means to be us. We prod, probe, and follow our natural curiosity. Connecting with the things that give us an intrinsic sense of joy.
Over time beliefs start to develop. We hear stories about what we “ought to do” and how we “should” behave. Our experiences then shape how we show up in the world (socialisation).
This process is a natural part of our development. Our sense of self emerges in the context of community.
As kids we have an intuitive connection to the creative cure. We experience unfiltered joy through curious play. Our imaginations carry us into magical worlds that we build upon mundane and ordinary backdrops.
But as the stories about who we are take shape, that authentic sense of self might experience rejection.
Messages of rejection are like paper cuts. They are subtle, but they can really sting: “Why are you doing it like that? That’s stupid!” Or “that’s just your imagination – grow up!” And “only an idiot would enjoy that kind of thing”. Or “why are you crying? You need thicker skin if you’re going to survive the real world”.
These messages prompt us to build filters (beliefs and habits) to keep us safe. We create defence mechanisms in the fight to avoid rejection. So we might recoil, hide, and replace those parts of ourselves that we feel ashamed of. And it might lead us to amplify behaviours that we believe will help us gain approval and acceptance.
It was great to have Jacob back on the show. I’m excited for you to hear the conversation. It was a thrill to unpack (and even experience!) the practical applications of The Creative Cure.
In the conversation you will hear us discuss:
- How The Creative Cure is in the simple practices that connect us to our inner creative self. Not so that we might reach a place of healing down the line where we find the “missing piece”.
- The power of this underlying myth in society that we are “born broken”. And how the Creative Cure helps us break from the tireless pursuit to be ‘enough’ and prove our worth.
- Why we should stop hacking at the branches of life and look at the roots instead.
- The differences between “child-like” and “childish”.
- Whether the pay off is worth the trade off when it comes to following our passions along the established paths.
- The 3 main enemies of the Inner Creative Self
- How Perfectionism and Procrastination are conjoined twins
- Three simple questions to ask ourselves in a Creative Cure Journal Practice
- The impact of hearing “you don’t get to do what you need to do, when you need to do it”. And how it conditions judgement, prohibition, and shame when it comes to recognising and caring for our own basic physical needs later in life.
- How gentle rebellion starts inside ourselves when we heal the connection to our creative self. And we are the contagious cure the world needs, not by TRYING to change it. But by entering our health, joy, and creative spirit.
Over to You
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- The Creative Cure | Jacob Nordby
- The Body Keeps The Score | Bessel van der Kolk
- The Deepest Well | Nadine Burke Harris
- The Creative Wound: Heal Your Broken Art | Mark Pierce
Related Episodes and Articles:
- 1000 Paper Cuts: Development of the Shame-Based Self: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-freedom-change/202002/1000-paper-cuts-development-the-shame-based-self
- Are You a Perfectionist? There Are Ways Out! (With Caroline McGraw): https://www.andymort.com/recovering-perfectionist/
- Let’s Get it Done…Now: High Sensitivity and Precrastination: https://www.andymort.com/precrastination/
- My Previous Interview with Jacob Nordby: https://www.andymort.com/jacob-nordby/
- Let Go of What (You Think) People Think of You: https://www.andymort.com/what-people-think/
- Entitlement: https://www.andymort.com/321-entitlement/
- Being an Amateur is Not Such a Bad Thing After All: https://www.andymort.com/stay-amateur/