Have you ever encountered one of those people who thinks they can do anything?
They impress everyone with their confidence and vast skill set, with the assurance ‘I can do that’. Only, once the rubber hits the road it becomes clear that they can’t. Or worse, that they can do it well enough to get by but no where near the standards you would expect, or you could deliver yourself.
This is kind of frustrating on two levels: first, that there are people with enough confidence and audacity to tell people they’re good at things that they’re not. And secondly, because you allowed yourself to believe that they were better suited to do something than you so you didn’t put yourself forward for an opportunity that you would have loved to get involved with.
Enough to Make Them Dangerous
“It is a well-known fact that those people who must want to rule people are, ipso facto, those least suited to do it… anyone who is capable of getting themselves made President should on no account be allowed to do the job”.
…I believe Douglas Adams said this and it seems appropriate in many areas of life.
Those people who have the confidence and self-belief to quickly declare ‘look at me, this is what I can do’ normally have enough knowledge to make them dangerous and not enough self-doubt for them to want to learn any more.
In this episode of the podcast I share two stories about people like this. Those who confidently promised beyond their abilities and ultimately disappointed.
The reason I want to explore these ideas is that introverts and highly sensitive people can often be the antithesis of this way. We may find ourselves with too much self-doubt, believing those who put themselves forward, and choosing to step back even though we have strong talents and desires.
We may hold ourselves back from even telling people what we’re good at and what we enjoy, and thus miss out on opportunities that may come our way. So in this show I want to explore where this may come from:
- “I don’t want to sound arrogant”
- “I don’t want to set myself up for a fall”
- “I feel like an impostor”
- “I haven’t been invited”
…and suggest some ways that we can begin gently sharing more of ourselves with other people and the world (without being anything like those people I mentioned earlier).
- Be Self-Aware
- See the Openings for Hints
- Understand the Bigger Picture
- Make the Most of One on One
- Remember that Just Because You are Good at something…
Over to You
Question: Have you ever wished you had the opening to share with someone something you love to do or are really good at but didn’t because it didn’t feel right? Why didn’t it feel right? Please leave your response in the comments below.
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