In his latest book, Me, Myself, and Us, Professor Brian Little says that we no longer think in terms of nature vs nurture as two sides of a debate. Rather consensus is emerging to say that the key thing to think about is how we nurture our natures.
And so “third natures arise out of the personal commitments and core projects that we pursue in our daily lives. Under this new perspective genes influence us as do our circumstances, but we are not hostage to them.”
Building Our Reality
We all build a picture of the world using a set of personal constructs. This is how we make predictable paths through the complexity of the world, for example seeing people through simple filters (male or female, introvert or extrovert, psychopath or normal).
These constructs influence the way we interact with the world and once another and may lead to us having skewed or closed-minded views.
As Professor Little points out, we can’t escape constructs. They are a fact of life, an inevitability of human consciousness. Without them we would be completely overloaded and overwhelmed by information. But we do have a choice as to how we interact with them and how open we are to empathically developing them.
Covered in this episode:
- Examples of constructs we might use to filter the world
- The negative implications of having two few constructs
- Why the world is not quite what it seems
- The reality of broken constructs
- Why introverts and highly sensitive people need to beaware of the constructs they create around their understanding of these temperaments
Over to You
Have you ever had one of your personal constructs broken? Either by a change in your own circumstances or by meeting someone who completely changed what you thought to be true. Please leave your response in the comments below. I’d love to hear your stories.
There is now a Patreon page for the podcast. This allows you to communicate your support for the show and encourage me to remain consistent in the creation of this content and in constantly seeking to take it to the next level. I am so incredibly thankful to those of you who continue to listen every week and for those of you decide to show your support by becoming a Patreon supporter (list of supporters here).